Fusing identity and healing: Author explores memoir writing, chaos, pain, writing process, and more

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Iranian-Canadian multi-genre writer Hollay Ghadery on Fuse

Author Hollay Ghadery

This article distills the main themes and advice from author Hollay Ghadery in the latest episode of the On Creative Writing podcast. Hollay is an Iranian-Canadian multi-genre writer and author of a number of books including the acclaimed memoir, Fuse. Fuse explores the intersections of mixed-race identity, mental health, and the transformative power of storytelling.

Fuse was published in 2021 by Guernica Editions and won the 2023 Canadian Bookclub Award for Nonfiction/Memoir.

In this conversation, Hollay offers invaluable insights into the writing process, the challenges of memoir, and the importance of authenticity and compassion in creative work.

This podcast interview with Hollay is a masterclass in memoir writing, how to tell your truth, and the art of great storytelling. By breaking down the writing process, exploring the nuances of mental health and family, and challenging societal norms around identity, Hollay offers a way forward for anyone seeking to tell their own story.

Hollay's recommends these steps before telling your story:

• Heal first, write second.

• Read widely and deeply.

• Approach your story—and those of others—with compassion and honesty.

Fuse by Hollay Ghadery was published in 2021 by Guernica Editions and won the 2023 Canadian Bookclub Award for Nonfiction/Memoir.

Episode content:

• The power of telling your truth

• Writing about mental health and family: Compassion and honesty

• The memoir writing process: From draft to publication

• Navigating identity and labels

• The importance of reading widely

• Actionable advice for aspiring memoirists

• Embracing the healing power of storytelling

Writing your memoir: The power of telling your truth

Hollay’s journey with Fuse began as an MFA thesis, initially a fictionalized novella. Over time, she felt compelled to strip away the fiction and confront her real experiences with mental illness, self-harm, and the complexities of being biracial in Canada. The title Fuse emerged from a metaphor about healing—how wounds, both physical and emotional, can fuse together over time.

Key insights:

• Memoir as healing: Writing about trauma can be cathartic, but Hollay cautions against using memoir as a primary means of processing pain. She advocates for healing first, then writing from a place of reflection.
  

• Bravery vs. necessity: Hollay challenges the notion that sharing personal stories is inherently brave. For her, it’s about necessity—addressing suffering and breaking silence, not seeking validation.
  

Actionable takeaway: Before embarking on a memoir, ask yourself: Am I ready to share this story? Prioritize your well-being and consider whether you’ve processed your experiences enough to write about them with clarity and compassion.

Writing about mental health and family: Compassion and honesty

One of the most important aspects of Fuse is Hollay’s exploration of family dynamics and mental health. She recounts her own struggles with OCD, anxiety, and depression, as well as the impact of her parents’ mental health on her upbringing.

Approaches:

• Compassion for all parties: Hollay’s perspective as a mother allowed her to view her parents’ actions with greater empathy, recognizing their struggles while not excusing harmful behaviors.

• Honesty without blame: She emphasizes the importance of focusing on your own perspective rather than speaking for others. This approach fosters honesty without resorting to blame or oversimplification.
  

Expert advice:

• Read widely: Study memoirs that handle family and mental health with nuance. Observe how authors balance personal truth with empathy for others involved.

• Legal and emotional considerations: Be mindful of the potential impact on family relationships and the legal implications of sharing personal stories.

The memoir writing process: From draft to publication

Hollay’s path to publication was anything but linear. She navigated the challenges of finding an agent, working with editors, and ultimately publishing with an independent press.

Here's a more detailed breakdown of her experience:

1. Drafting and revising:

   • Hollay’s first drafts are solitary, but revision is collaborative.

   • She relies on trusted beta readers for feedback, choosing those with the right skills and mindset.

   • After receiving feedback, she sets the manuscript aside before revisiting it with fresh eyes.
     

2. Editing:

   • Editors play a crucial role. Hollay recalls an editor asking, “So what?”—a piece of feedback that forced her to clarify the purpose of each essay.

   • She stresses the importance of every piece contributing to the overall narrative.
     

3. Publication:

   • Hollay’s experience shows that it’s possible to publish without an agent, especially with small presses.

   • She values publishers who align with her vision and provide personalized attention.

     
     

Actionable takeaway: Be open to feedback and revision. Choose beta readers and editors who challenge you to clarify your message and strengthen your narrative.

Navigating identity and labels

A central theme in Fuse is the complexity of identity, especially for those who don’t fit neatly into societal categories. Hollay discusses her thoughts about the label “biracial,” preferring to be seen as a whole person rather than reduced to a single aspect of her identity.

Indepth insights:

• Labels as double-edged swords: Labels can offer safety and community but can also be limiting and reductive.
  

• Societal pressures: Hollay reflects on the pressure to conform to mainstream identities, especially in predominantly white environments.
  

Hollay's perspective: Embrace the fluidity of identity. Use labels if they serve you, but don’t feel constrained by them. Allow your writing to reflect the full complexity of your experience.

The importance of reading widely

Hollay is adamant that aspiring memoirists must read extensively within the genre. She notes that many would-be writers attempt memoir without understanding its conventions or possibilities.

Why reading matters:

• Understanding structure and voice: Reading memoirs helps writers grasp how to structure their own stories and develop a unique voice.

• Learning from others: Exposure to diverse narratives broadens your perspective and deepens your empathy.
  

Recommended reading practices:

• Read memoirs that tackle similar themes to your own.

• Analyze how authors handle difficult topics, transitions, and emotional arcs.

• Don’t limit yourself to memoir—read fiction, poetry, and essays to enrich your craft.

Actionable advice for aspiring memoirists

Drawing from Hollay’s experience and the podcast discussion, here are concrete steps for those considering writing a memoir:

1. Prioritize Healing

• Don’t use memoir as your primary means of processing trauma.

• Seek therapy or other support systems first.
  

2. Clarify Your Thesis

• Every memoir should have a central argument or message, even if it's "I don't know".

• Ask yourself: What is the core truth I want to convey?
  

3. Be Selective with Details

• You don’t need to include every experience.

• Focus on stories that support your central thesis.

  
  

4. Choose Beta Readers Wisely

• Select readers who understand your goals and can offer constructive, honest feedback.

  
  

5. Embrace revision

• Be prepared to revise multiple times.

• Take breaks between drafts to gain perspective.
  

6. Consider Your Audience

• Write for yourself first, but be mindful of how your story might impact others.
  

7. Respect boundaries and be aware of the law

• Familiarize yourself with the legal implications of writing about real people.

• Consider using pseudonyms or composite characters if necessary.

Embracing the healing power of storytelling

Hollay’s story is a testament to the transformative power of writing. By sharing her truth, she moves forward in healing and creates space for others to confront their own stories. Her memoir Fuse resonates with readers from all backgrounds, offering a bridge across differences and a reminder of our shared humanity.

Final thoughts:

• Storytelling as connection: Literature can unite people across divides, fostering empathy and understanding.

• Diverse voices are essential: Engaging with stories outside your own experience expands your worldview and deepens your compassion.
  

Call to action: Whether you’re a writer or a reader, seek out stories that challenge your assumptions and broaden your perspective. Open up to the discomfort of difference—it’s where growth and connection begin.

For more insights and inspiration, listen to the full episode and explore Hollay Ghadery's memoir, Fuse. Your story matters—tell it with courage and care.

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